Books, help you grow your mindset. They create the space between the reader and themselves so that reader can get most of them. Books can increase vocabulary and knowledge that’s why books are Big ocean of knowledge. knowledge does not mean academic one but life skills. when you read a book you can ignore the real world for while and get into an imaginary world. reading books help can help you be productive and wise.
“A room without books is like a body without a soul.”-cicero
If you are an introvert. if you live in solitude and struggling to be friends with someone, books can be your best friend, and trust me they never let you down. but there’s one book that can be your friend and also improve your interpersonal skills so that you can be friends with others, and that book I think is Book of the month.
How to win friends & influence people. -Dale Carnegie
During the first thirty-five years of the twentieth century. the publishing houses of America printed more than a fifth of a million different books. most of them failed and were dull and every 7 out of 8 books were losing money for publications house. Carnegie had been conducting educational courses for business and professional men and women in Newyork. while conducting these courses, Carnegie found these men and women needed the training to express their ideas with more clarity, effectiveness, and poise. people need training in fine art to get along with people in everyday business and social contacts.
How to win friends and influence people is a self-help book especially for people who want to interact with people in the first place. we all are social animals and we need people in life to share our feelings. feelings can be expressed as love and emotion. and who does not want to be loved or welcomed but the thing is we cannot express the feelings first and second maybe some of us does not know to start a conversation.
The thing is we all make a mistake to introduce ourselves. Not to say but we all sometimes, introducing ourselves only care about us and forget to ask about them. we shouldn’t brag about our achievements but appreciate theirs. we should act superior but try to level up. remember, we can make more friends in 2 months than 2 years by genuinely becoming interested in others.
First impression is the last impressions.
The first impression is the last impression that means you need to be careful in your first meet whether it is just a casual meet or interview or corporate or business get-together. you need to be careful of your first look not only your body language or your shoes define your first place in any meeting but the way you talk also defines your class. you should be smiling and having an optimistic attitude. try to listen out, ask questions and listen first then speak.
It’s like if you are smoking a cigarette with someone, and you have a lighter, you should light their cigarette first. But if you have matches, you should light your cigarette first, so you breathe the “harmful sulfur” instead of them.
To simplify things let me make a list of key points of this book.
- become genuinely inrested in other people
- Remeber that a persons name is to that person is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
- be agood listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
- talk in terms of other person’s interests.
- make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.
These are the simple ways to make people like you so you can be friends with them. These are not the most but not the least as well, you can say these are basic rules.
recommended: Best of Shakespeare
Some of the highlighting sentences I found while reading this book.
It is frequently easier to find fault than to praise.
An animal rewarded for good behaviour will learn much more rapidly and retain what it learns far more effectively than an animal punished for bad behaviour.
Criticisms are liking homing pigeons.They always return home.
Any fool can criticize , condemn and complain – and most fools do.
“If there is anyone secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from yours”
The expressions one wears on one’s face is far more important than the clothes one wears on one’s back.
Hatred is never ended by hatred but by love and a misunderstanding is never ended by an argument but by tact, diplomacy, conciliation and asympathetic desire to see the other perosn’s viewpoint.
By fighting you never get enough,but by yielding you get more than you expected.
Gentleness and friendliness were always stronger than fury and force.
Book of the Month is a United States subscription-based e-commerce service that offers a selection of five new hardcover books each month to its members. you can read about it here.
About the author
Dale Carnegie born on November 24, 1888, is an American writer and lecturer and the developer of courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills.
Carnegie wrote many books in his life which include “How to win friends and influence people” and which I personally think is a book of the month for me.
- 1915: Art of Public Speaking, with Joseph Berg Esenwein.
- 1920: Public Speaking: the Standard Course of the United Y. M. C. A. Schools.
- 1926: Public Speaking: a Practical Course for Business Men. Later editions and updates changed the name of the book several times: Public Speaking and Influencing Men in Business (1937 revised), How to Develop Self-Confidence and Influence People by Public Speaking (1956) and Public Speaking for Success (2005).
- 1932: Lincoln the Unknown.
- 1934: Little Known Facts About Well Known People.
- 1936: How to Win Friends and Influence People.
- 1937: Five Minute Biographies.
- 1944: Dale Carnegie’s Biographical round-up.
- 1948: How to Stop Worrying and Start Living.
- 1959: Dale Carnegie’s Scrapbook: a Treasury of the Wisdom of the Ages.A selection of Dale Carnegie’s writings edited by Dorothy Carnegie.
- 1962: The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speaking. (by Dorothy Carnegie, based upon Dale Carnegie’s own notes and ideas)
you can read more about him here.